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WISH YOU WERE HERE, WHERE YOU DON'T
WANT TO BE: ON THE ARISTOCRATIC NATURE OF PHILOSOPHICAL CONSULTATIONS,
OSCAR STYLE
Writen by Morten Fastvold
1. Getting beyond a mere conversation
Understanding more of the Oscar way of questioning is always a
pleasure. During his one week seminary in Burgundy in July ‘06 I
undoubtedly got a better grasp of his major points than I previously
had, thanks to the numerous and quite intense sessions of exercises,
both of group discussions and of one-to-one consultations. As an
aspiring counselor I will focus on the latter field in these
reflections on the Oscar approach, as I now see it.
No elaborations, please
Not surprisingly, I found Oscar just as uncompromising in his
counseling work as ever before, and with good justifications for his
unyielding attitude. I particularly noticed a remark of his that in my
opinion highlighted this. It was when Oscar pointed out that we, as
philosophical counselors should guide
people to places where they don’t want to be.
Surely this is what usually happens during an Oscar consultation; the
subject is quickly dragged away from the story or the elaboration of
the problem she initially puts forward, as Oscar’s way of
questioning gives the dialogue quite another direction than the
subject had anticipated. She gets a “No! No! No!” when she
wants to contextualize her answer, or to give further
information’s, or to explore the complexity of the issue.
“Just answer the question” is Oscar’s
conversation-killing response, followed up with interruptions like
“No yes, but,” or “Yes, it depends, but what is the
most likely?” Sooner or later, dependant of how much the subject
resists the rules Oscar imposes (which he does not explain in
beforehand), she is brought into foreign ground, unpleasantly
surprised by the turns and twists of the dialogue.
Having to abandon her life story, or the talk about her own feelings
and everyday worries, is surely not what a subject unfamiliar to the
Oscar approach expects a philosophical consultation to be. She surely
wants to stay within the realm of what Oscar labels “the
empirical self,” where she feels at home and in reasonable
control of the conversation. But, as Oscar has stated several times
earlier on: if you as a counselor allows the subject to plunge back to
her empirical self, she will take you for a ride. Then you are
finished, and you can do nothing but follow her whims.
The banker attitude
Being a good listener, in the sense of letting the subject speak
freely, and more or less passively try to grasp what her speech is all
about, is thus to be far off the mark. The typical question of the
Oslo school counselors, “Can you tell me more about
this?”, is an absolute no-no in Oscar’s way of counseling.
According to Oscar, you should instead lead the subject up to the
realm of the transcendental self, namely the realm of reason, which is
interpersonal, and thus without a subject.
Unlike the realm of the empirical self, where the subject is very much
at home, and can hide in well-established trenches, familiar to
herself but strange ground to the counselor, the realm of the
transcendental self is unfamiliar to the subject, and awfully
transparent. When you are up there, in the realm of pure conceptual
thinking, you are not allowed to hide behind your words, but are
instead confronted with these very words. Here – just like
Socrates – the philosophical counselor should feel at home, and
exercise his craft.
While an Oslo school counselor feels free to add ideas of his own
during the consultation, in order to make something happen in the
subject, Oscar totally abstains from such a charitable move. To him,
philosophical counseling is not about conducting an enlightened,
well-mannered conversation based on an exchange of ideas. He instead
adopts a banker’s attitude, which is to count the assets brought
on the table by the subject, without presupposing or counting in
something that is not already there. It is, after all, the
subject’s ideas that are to be investigated, and not his own.
The counselor then has to be as strict with his own urge to converse
as with that of the subject. He cannot allow himself to be carried
away by some special, personal interest in the issue in question, but
must remain a sober banker. The only valid assets in the dialogue are
the subject’s assets, which are her own words. To confront the
subject with her own words is what the counselor must restrict himself
to do in his questioning.
The urge to drown the fish
Unlike what one might initially believe, being confronted with
one’s own words is not a pleasant experience at all. What we
tend to like about words, is that they vanish the next moment after we
have uttered them, almost like breath, thus allowing us to express
ourselves, and at the same time have full options to rephrase our
message, or deny or lie or forget about what we have said.
The combined liberty to express ourself, and to hide away from what we
have expressed, is of course the prerogative of the spoken word,
which, unlike the written word, only is stored in our faulty memory,
and thus be out of reach to a banker style investigation. Even if the
listener has a good banker’s memory and can quote the other
accurately, the other may flatly deny that she said so and so by
accusing the listener of a faulty memory. As long as he cannot prove
that she did say so and so, the case rests with her word against his.
Sometimes she is so unaware of what she has said that she does so
without dubious intentions, but often she remembers what she said, but
will not admit it. Instead, she claims that she did phrase it
differently or tries to drown her initial statement in lots of other
words.
“To drown the fish” (noyer le
poisson) is a French expression Oscar puts forward to characterize
this all too human attempt to get away from what we have said by
adding more and more words, to confuse the other’s memory and
get away with it by exhausting the other. But, as a fish cannot be
drowned, in spite of all our efforts to do so, we cannot make the
initial words unsaid, however much we try.
Write it down, slow down the pace
If these words are written down in the first place – which is
something Oscar always does, and then makes the subject agree that
this is indeed what she says – the subject puts herself in the
awkward situation of allowing the counselor to confront her with these
very words at a later moment, when she has become less happier about
them.
Counselors may be reluctant to write the subject’s initial
question and key words down because this creates a pause in the
dialogue, and thus a moment of silence which they may conceive of as
embarrassing, and even unprofessional (in my former career as a
journalist, this surely was a no-no – then you proved your
craftsmanship by maintaining the fluidity of the interview, without
demanding any pauses when taking notes).
What the counselor must assure himself of, is that it is not only
permitted, but recommended, to take pauses for writing notes, and even
to stop the subject from keeping on with her speech while you are
writing. To allow yourself to take your time while writing down the
subject’s question, and thus making the subject wait, has, as
Oscar explains, both a symbolic and a practical function. It creates
suspense, it slows down the pace of the conversation, and it makes you
sure that you have got the question (so that the subject cannot alter
it later on and accuse you of misquoting her). You must thus accept
the silence, and turn it into something useful.
Not accepting answers given too quickly is another way of slowing down
the pace of the dialogue. A verbal ping-pong between questions and
answers must not occur, because then there is no thinking going on,
just instant reactions, which is a very different exercise from that
of Oscar’s. Don’t react too fast to the subject’s
answers, Oscar warns us. You can very well say “Don’t
answer too quickly,” thus making the subject think instead of
merely react.
To ask “Did you hear the question?” may also be used to
set the pace of the consultation. To slow down the pace in this way
may be useful when the subject answers too quickly. Then she should be
lead to think her answer through before answering.
Accepting the sense of awkwardness
A sense of awkwardness is likely to show in the subject because of the
slowed down pace. It is not only because the counselor then challenges
social conventions that tell us to make a conversation easy-going and
agreeable, but mostly because the subject then has no place to hide.
She cannot start drowning the fish, as in a regular conversation, and
her attempts to not answer the questions becomes all too visible.
Then the subject surely has been taken to a place where she does not
want to be. By taking her out of the private realm by emphasizing the
intersubjectivity of reason, he has de-subjected the subject. This may
not be very pleasant, as she then cannot speak freely about herself,
but has to ask general questions like “How would you qualify a
person who does/says so and so?” The realm of the transcendental
self is harsh and transparent, and makes us expose our stupidity right
away, because our efforts to escape ourselves get transparent, too. We
are made to look ourselves in the mirror in broad daylight, where
everything shows.
Or, to quote Nietzsche, as Oscar does: we are made to look into the
abyss, and the abyss looks back at us. That is what Oscar calls
“a philosophical moment,” which is what a counselor should
strive to achieve.
Resisting the temptation to be nice
Such an enterprise is likely to be quite appealing to most
philosophical counselors. Yes, they might say, in this respect we are
sympathetic to Oscar’s project. But when it comes to achieving
this goal in an actual practice, they are reluctant to see that this
does not go together with our all too human inclinations to give
concessions to the other, either by what we say or by the way we say
it.
The oscarian counselor must resist this inclination, and not be
disturbed by the subject’s expressed awkwardness. He must know
that this is to be expected, maybe in the same way as a physician
expects an outburst of pain when performing an examination of the
patient’s body. This is not a moment for excuse, but for
accepting what has to be.
In short: The counselor must resist the temptation to be nice, as this
is understood in social conventions. He must be persistent in his
questioning, and have no qualms about its slowed down pace and its
interrogation style. Again: this is no kind of conversation, but a
highly artificial kind of exercise that it takes a specially trained
philosopher to conduct.
The need to sugar the pill
This does not imply that the counselor should feel free to adopt a
Stasi attitude when questioning the subject. That would have made the
session unbearable, and probably have caused the subject to leave the
office in fury and disgust. The big pedagogical question, then, is how
to make it bearable to the subject to be lead where she does not want
to be.
Oscar’s answer to this is to sugar the pill by employing good
humor and a playful attitude. He can be stern and good fun at the same
time, which is very hard indeed. We might say that this is a personal
trait that comes in very handy, but which cannot be taught, or at
least to a much less degree than his rules of thumb for the procedure
of questioning.
An aspiring counselor, Oscar style, nevertheless has to develop, in
one way or other, some sugaring of the pill he wants the subject to
swallow. If not, the questioning will quickly get an interrogation
character that reminds the subject of a stern, authoritarian examiner,
which in turn triggers emotions of inferiority, and even humiliation.
No small talk, please
Apart from the necessity of sugaring the pill, Oscar refuses to be
“nice” by way of pleasing the subject with small talk and
be visibly concerned about her well-being. He even states that he has
no respect for the empirical person, as empirical persons constantly
lie and deceive the counselor, and often themselves as well. (But he
does have respect for the transcendental person, which is something
bigger than the empirical person.)
Like Plato, Oscar wants the subject to take off the shirt and have a
good, friendly fight with him, metaphorically speaking. Then the
subject must be up to it, and if she agrees to have a try, the
counselor has no reason to be worrisome on her behalf. That would, in
fact, rather be insulting than benevolent.
So, as a rule of thumb: Don’t indulge in much easygoing talk in
the beginning of a consultation. Set the tone right away, just like
Socrates does when he starts questioning his interlocutor.
Don’t try to solve the problem
A third basic point in Oscar’s approach, which he repeatedly
stressed during the seminary, is that he does not consider it to be
the counselor’s task to solve the subject’s problem.
Solving problems is not the issue in his counseling sessions. They are
instead about seeing the problem, about
making the subject become really aware of it. Maybe there is no
solution to the problem disclosed, or maybe the subject manages to
solve it by herself later on. Any pragmatic approach is thus a no-no
to the Oscar way of counseling.
I recall a session in Copenhagen a couple of years ago, when the
subject’s question was whether she should buy a car, or not.
Having a car would make it much easier to make her children visit
their grandparents, but a car also pollutes the air, which worried her
a lot. During the session, Oscar did no attempt to solve the problem,
but highlighted why this rather practical question imposed such qualms
on her that she really agonized about it. Exposing the philosophical
drama behind this down to earth question was the issue, not to work
out a solution together.
This attitude of Oscar’s astonished most of the bystanders, who
themselves dealt with philosophical counseling. Some of them clearly
expressed that solving the problem should have been the issue –
which, as Oscar pointed out, has become a typical American way of
dealing with questions of any kind. This, however, is not in tune with
what Socrates did on the agora, and for good reasons.
To reestablish the Socratic approach thus goes against the teaching of
the many pragmatic and the holistic influenced counselors of today.
Avoid creating hope
If a counselor wants to solve the subject’s problem, he also
creates hope, Oscar points out. The counselor must then be just as
particular about not creating hope as of not trying to solve the
problem. Hope is a terrible thing, Oscar states, and has to be avoided
during a consultation.
This does not mean, as I understand it, that the counselor should kill
any hope the subject might have of solving her problem, or of getting
a better life. It should not be written on the counselor’s door
what is written at the entrance gate of Dante’s Inferno, namely
that the one who enters here must let go of all his hope. Quite
different from this, hope simply is not the issue in a philosophical
consultation.
Surely, hope can be the topic discussed, as when the subject poses a
question like “Why have I no hope for the future?” or
creates an antinomy where hope is set against e.g. despair. Then the
counselor should deal with this as with any other issue. But what he
should not do is to convey, directly or indirectly, an expectation of
solving the question or of improving the subject’s life.
“Come to me, and you will manage to cope better with your
life” is thus an advertisement the counselor should not make.
Even if this very well might be the result of a consultation, in the
short or the long run, the counselor cannot promise this, and should
therefore abstain from dealing with the effects of his counseling.
2. Some late night pragmatic qualms
Before I comment any further on Oscar’s work, I would
like to deal with a dilemma that his approach poses, should we
nevertheless, and just for a moment, allow ourselves to adopt a
pragmatic look upon our trade. One late evening during the seminary,
on my way back to sleep, I could not help having some heretical
thoughts on the whole Oscar enterprise. Wanting to guide people to
places where they don’t want to go, combined with an
unwillingness to be nice, and not wanting to solve the subject’s
problem – well, I have heard of a better business idea. Just
having said that, the term “business idea” seemed so
inappropriate that I could not help laughing. It got the flavor of a
joke, even if the matter is, to an aspiring professional counselor, no
joke at all.
In the best of all possible worlds, people would know what is good for
them, and pursue these good things, even if this should imply some
hardship and not any gentle approach by professionals performing their
services. But we clearly don’t live in the best of all possible
worlds, but in a quite imperfect one, where one significant trait
– especially in our modern western culture – is an
infantilisation of the population by way of the more and more
intrusive marketplace way of thinking about most aspects of life.
“May we tempt you with anything right now?” one
advertisement poster typically shouts out at a shopping mall in Oslo.
“Aren’t you a little hungry?” a smaller poster
outside my local bakery hopefully asks. In a world where more and more
people earn a living by selling goods and services to each other, and
where old-fashioned blue-collar workers are becoming an endangered
species, the urge to arouse potential customer’s needs of any
kind gets more and more predominant at the agora. You don’t have
to be a Marxist to realize that this mainstream way of earning a
living affects us all in the end by making us feel more entitled to
satisfy our even smallest needs whenever they occur, as the social,
material world does have a pivotal role in shaping our mental life.
Unlearning our childhood lessons
What characterizes an infant is, among other things, the very short
distance between a felt need, be it bodily or mental, and the demand
to satisfy that very need. The small child finds it unbearable when
his need isn’t satisfied right away, and a major task in
bringing up kids is to make them tolerate some time gap between a felt
need and its satisfaction. They must learn to wait, to live with their
need for some time before it is appropriate or practically possible to
satisfy it. Maybe it cannot be satisfied at all, and then you also
must learn to cope with that.
In our present society, however, where scarcity of material goods no
longer exists – which, by the way is a new historical experience
– these lessons from our upbringing are constantly undermined.
No, the advertisements tell us, you don’t have to, and should
not, accept any delay between a felt need and its satisfaction. You
should revive the small, egoistic child in yourself and demand –
that is: buy – satisfaction right away.
You have to be about fifty years old these days to remember the good
bad old days, where scarcity of material goods were a major concern,
even in our western societies. Then our parents had to save money for
weeks, or even months, to buy clothes or household equipment that we
now put in the shopping bag almost without giving it a thought, and
pay for them just by handing out our credit card. The old device of
“First you earn, then you consume” is since long
abolished, and replaced with “Buy now, and pay later on.”
Or, as a widespread slogan puts it: “Because I deserve
it.” Which you a priori do, who ever you are. That is because
you, first of all, have become a consumer in our modern society, and
then are entitled to mindless flattery and an easygoing life.
Occasionally you may also be a citizen, as on Election Day, but your
everyday role and social duty is to be a consumer, and thus to
consume.
As the philosopher Arnold Schopenhauer states: “I consume,
therefore I am – but that doesn’t make me any
happier.”
The assumed right to be satisfied
Being a consumer, you quickly learn to exercise your rights without
bothering about duties, as the customer’s privilege is to have
rights without duties. The customer has above all the right to be
satisfied, or pleased, right away. To assume that someone would pay
good money for not being satisfied, and without any guarantee that
they at least will be happier after some initial pain, would be
absurd. Professional people must please us; if not, we demand our
money back.
If they are in the counseling business, they are obliged to listen to
us, to help us with whatever problem we want to solve, and to be
really nice and understanding. Like monkeys in the zoo, customers want
to be groomed – be it by their peers or by a professional who is
so good at it that they are willing to pay for his service.
Thus, a nice and understanding counselor who allows us to speak freely
and make a good impression, at least in our own eyes, is the one we
are most likely to choose.
Interestingly, this grooming approach is also considered to be the
ethical correct one by most philosophical counselors – while
interrupting the subject and leading the exchange of words in a
direction where she doesn’t want to go is looked upon as quite
unethical. The grooming attitude has thus become both the commercially
and ethically correct one.
According to this reasoning, Oscar’s Socratic approach must be
considered ethically dubious, and economically disadvantageous as
well. Who could in his right mind think that he will make a living by
doing consultations the Oscar way? Even Oscar does not earn much money
from one-to-one counseling; he gets most of his income from his other
work.
On the other hand, Oscar’s approach is very appealing from a
philosophical point of view, and we should be happy for his firm and
uncompromising stance. Realizing this, any kind of softening his way
of questioning would appear to chicken out. We probably have to make a
choice between being a nice or an Oscarian counselor, which, when
speaking in the term of business idea, means a lot.
So let’s face it: If philosophical counseling, Oscar style, is a
disastrous business idea, so be it. Then you cannot think in terms of
earning a living while aspiring to be a hardcore Oscarian counselor.
These two concerns do not go together, plain and simple.
The need to be aristocratic
That is why I put the word “aristocratic” in the heading
of these notes. As I see it, Oscar’s way of counseling has an
aristocratic nature because of its incompatibility with any kind of
business idea. It is beyond all that; it is an enterprise you must
entertain for its own sake, without any concern for money. Socrates
surely did not charge anyone for his questioning, and Plato and
Aristotle would insist that philosophy is something you do for its own
sake, because it is the best a man can do – while a concern for
money, as the sophists had, was below any proper kind of philosophical
activity.
But then you must get your income elsewhere, or be blessed with an
inheritance or a financial support that allows you to spend the time
you need on your philosophical practice. You must have sufficient
means to be liberated from the ordinary man’s task of earning a
living from a regular job that may not be very interesting, and surely
not what one would have preferred to do, if he could choose to do
whatever he liked.
An aristocrat, on the other hand, does have the opportunity to devote
his time to what he prefers to do. To me, this is the most important
aspect by being an aristocrat, and not the nonsense of “blue
blood” and noble ancestors, and of the infamous aristocratic
snobbism. I also find it less important that an aristocrat should be
very rich, and live in luxury in a big castle. The important thing is
that he has enough means to get by without having to take regular
jobs. He may very well be modest in his material needs, as he quite
likely will be if he prefers to spend his time and efforts on
philosophical inquiries. Socrates probably was not very rich, but he
had enough to get by, and that’s the point.
Our need to be aristocratic, then, is not about acquiring fine manners
and having rich friends, but about acquiring an aristocratic
attitude in those activities we are devoting ourselves to, how modest
they may be, and how modest our income may be. This of course poses
some stern practical problems to people who are not so fortunate as
having rich parents or a moneymaking spouse, or who has not already
paid his loans by working a considerable number of years.
Hence the dilemma, which arises from the egalitarian convictions of
our modern society, especially in Scandinavia. People in a more
class-divided society might not see any dilemma at all, but just
acknowledge the fact that the world is not one of egalitarian justice,
and that some people happen to be more privileged than others. Which
means, once more, that we don’t live in the best of all possible
worlds, but in a quite imperfect one.
Accepting the limits of the imperfect
world
If we had lived in the best of all possible words, most people would
have renounced the advertisement indoctrination, because there they
would have known what was in their own interest, and gladly have taken
care of their personal development. There, people also would have
wanted to be guided to places where they don’t want to be. They
would even have paid good money for it, by being counseled in an
Oscarian, Socratic way.
This, in turn, would mean that the philosopher might be uncompromising
in his work, and still get paid, even if he did not care much about
money. Which means that anybody with the proper interest in becoming a
counselor could acquire the necessary aristocratic approach,
regardless of his economical situation.
We must, of course, reconcile ourselves with our present and far from
perfect world, instead of getting sour from thoughts on how things
should have been, when it is not in our power to change them. Then
each one of us will get a better understanding of what we are up to,
should we be persistent enough to attend another Oscar seminar. This
might even be the theme for a philosophical consultation.
Or maybe we should print postcards that say “Wish you were here,
where you don’t want to be,” and have a pile of them at
our office. Then a client who might be happy with the consultation,
despite of all its hardship, could grab a few and mail them to
friends. I surely unmask the pragmatic me by proposing such a public
relation idea, but I guess I can’t help it. Hope is something
you must have when aspiring to be a counselor, even if hope, as Oscar
puts it, is a terrible thing during a consultation.
3. The first rule of the game: be stupid
Returning to Oscar’s way of questioning, I once more
would like to stress what I find very appealing with it, namely the
fact that he has developed it into a craft that to a considerable
extent can be taught. The different sessions of the seminar thus dealt
with the art of questioning, and how to conduct a consultation. Oscar
conveyed a lot of dos and don’ts, which were very concrete and
practical-minded (and not of a general ethical character, as often is
the case with Norwegian and other counselors).
Oscar also focused on the attitude issue – also this in a
concrete, practical way. On the last day of the seminar, the
discussion dealt (among other things) with the all too human fear of
looking stupid, or of making our interlocutor look stupid. In general,
we would rather appear smart than stupid, often out of vanity.
Besides, there is a kind of losing face when one is exposed as stupid.
No wonder, then, that we try very hard to avoid such a moment.
What made the theme of being stupid suddenly surface was, as one
participant demonstrated, the big temptation to accept gestures or
unfinished sentences from the subject during consulting exercises.
This participant even did the same thing as a counselor, and to such
an extent that Oscar pointed it out. Then we all acknowledged the
inadequacy, and even silliness, of such a way to conduct a session
– which we all to a more or less degree had been guilty of.
The pitfalls of ordinary shorthand
language
Why, Oscar asked, would one accept gestures and unfinished sentences
from the subject? I suggested the fear of looking stupid as the
culprit, and Oscar agreed. I also pointed out the widespread use of
shorthand language in everyday life, where people often don’t
bother to finish sentences, and make a gesture instead, both to save
time and to express themselves through a certain jargon.
Thus, our ability to get the message through some short hand jargon
proves that we are in tune with the other, which in turn proves that
we possess a certain amount of smartness and social adaptation. If we
don’t get the message, we are very much tempted to play along
and pretend that we did, as this prevents us from looking stupid. We
would rather misunderstand than expose our lack of smartness, in order
to avoid a moment’s embarrassment. Our inner embarrassment of
not really understanding the other is more bearable.
This also works the other way around. If we ourselves are lengthy and
complete in our speech, the other may think that we underestimate him,
and take it as an insult. “I know what you’re getting
at,” he may say before you have finished your sentence. So, in
order not to insinuate that the other is somewhat slow in his head, or
not tuned in socially, you should rather show trust in him by
employing shorthand language and gestures yourself.
Of course this leads to a lot of misunderstandings and faulty
communication. Abiding to short-hand language and gestures may also be
an act of courtesy to the other when we notice some uncertainty in
her, because it is supposed to be considerate to allow the other to be
vague or escape her own words in such a moment. Arresting the other
and demand a clear, unambiguous answer, would be looked upon as taking
advantage of the other’s vulnerability, and thus to be rude.
Then other people would frown upon us.
Intellectuals like us are no less insistent on our right to be unclear
than non-intellectuals are. During our university studies,
understanding lectures is a constant demand that we cannot always live
up to. Instead of asking stupid questions in such feeble moments, we
rather keep quiet and try to hide our lack of comprehension, because,
once more, such an inner embarrassment is more bearable than a
moment’s exposed embarrassment, even if the latter would have
brought the former, more lasting embarrassment to a halt.
In line with this, university peers have developed a tacit pact of not
asking each other stupid questions during the awkward silence after
the lecture is completed. Exposing your own lack of comprehension
would be bad enough, but since you at the same time expose the
other’s similar shortcoming, it becomes unforgivable. Then you
are shied away from, since you have proved to be a loose cannon on
deck.
Facing the taboo of exposing
stupidity
No wonder, then, that even philosophical counselors succumb to the
temptation to accept the unclarity of a gesture or an unfinished
sentence from time to time. But according to Oscar, this should never
be allowed during a consultation – just as we should never allow
the dialogue to turn into a regular conversation. To achieve clarity
of thought and speech is what we must strive for, at any cost.
This implies, as a rock bottom rule, that we must face the taboo of
exposing stupidity head on, and get rid of it. We must always feel at
liberty to ask stupid questions, such as asking the subject what her
gesture means, or to finish her sentence. This, by the way, will be
much easier when we abandon the conversational style of counseling and
adopt the quite unnatural Socratic way of questioning.
We may even deploy some Socratic irony, as Oscar sometimes does, by
saying that “I’m just a simple philosopher, so I
don’t know what X means” when the subject employs a word X
in a way that presupposes the counselor’s understanding, even if
it is not quite clear what the subject means when saying X. Or, if the
subject employs lofty concepts at a considerable speed, and connects
them with intricate twists and turns, Oscar may stop her by saying
“Hey, this is getting way too complicated to me. I am a
simple-minded man, so could you please try to say it more slowly, and
with simple words?”
It is, however, not easy to be ironic in such a straightforward way.
In order to achieve this kind of irony, you must have absolutely no
qualms about making such statements. If you do have qualms, a
shivering in your voice or a flickering in your eyes will give you
away, and the effect is not irony, but false pretensions. Then you
undermine your credibility, which is really a stupid thing to do.
Killing your own pride in being smart is thus a presupposition for
conducting a consultation with doses of irony that expose and disarm
the other’s pretensions of smartness. Then you have deprived him
of his favorite hiding place, and led him out in the open, where fewer
and simpler words will reveal the stupidity he tries to hide. The
subject instinctively understands this, and accordingly refuses or
resists the rules of the exercise imposed by the counselor.
To reconcile oneself with nothingness
According to Oscar, it is a significant philosophical task to make
people see their own stupidity. This goes also for the philosopher
himself. One should be able to look oneself in the mirror each morning
and say “Hey, stupid” – not as some self-diminishing
ritual, but as an act of caring for oneself. To recognize the value of
being stupid in the right way, and not to take oneself too seriously,
is all-important to the philosophical counselor.
Such an acknowledgement of one’s stupidity is also the way to
reconcile oneself with nothingness, in the sense that you then learn
how little you are, in order to be free. This is basic in Asian and
African religions, and a general and very banal insight in the art of
living.
I think that the aristocratic nature of Oscar’s way of
consultation also is shown in this coming to terms with one’s
own stupidity. When you are not afraid of breaking the taboo of
exposing stupidity, but can do this without qualms, then you are above
most person’s concerns of looking smart, rooted in their pride
and vanity. You can permit yourself what they cannot do, and there is
a grandeur in doing that – just like it is a grandeur in being
above money when you devote your time to counseling, even if your
income might be very modest. Here we see how a modest attitude turns
into grandness when it is real, and not mere pretense.
In short, you have to be quite sure of yourself in order to admit
right away when you are not sure of what the other person means by
saying so and so. That is a prerogative you have over all those people
who are rather unsure of themselves, often to such an extent that they
would not dare to admit their uncertainty.
4. Philosophy as a way to stop living
We have so far established that an Oscarian counselor
- should guide the subject to places where she doesn’t want to
be
- should not be nice, but set the tone of Socratic questioning right
away
- should not be concerned with solving the subject’s problem,
but rather make her look into the abyss, which hopefully stares back
at her
- should be at liberty to ask stupid questions, and make the subject
acknowledge her own stupidity
We must now add another major point to this bleak list, and
that is that the counselor
- should realize that philosophy is a way to stop living
Or, as Oscar also puts it: In philosophy you learn about
finitude, and thus you learn to die.
What this amounts to in practice is, once more, to halt the urge to
tell one’s life story, to elaborate on a problem, and to
contextualize it. Life surely consists of story, narration, desires
and their fulfillment (or lack of fulfillment) – in short of
events with a subject in its center. Philosophy, on the other hand,
consists of concepts that do not tell any story, and that have no
subject. Nor has philosophy any desires, apart from its pivotal urge
to find the truth.
Countering the urge to express
oneself
During a philosophical consultation or a group discussion, people
frequently display an inner pressure to express themselves, and they
get very frustrated if they are not given the opportunity to speak
their mind freely, without interruption. Quite contrary to what a nice
counselor would do, Oscar quickly stops this flow of speech and, as we
have already seen, has no qualms about making the subject annoyed and
frustrated. To him, philosophy is to stop the urge to tell stories,
and to express one’s feelings and opinions – which means
to stop living. Telling a story is not a philosophical task, but
explaining the story is.
There are no rules without exceptions, however. I recall a seemingly
different approach by the philosophical counselor Petra von Morstein,
who during her visit in Oslo a couple of years ago said that:
“If the person starts talking in very abstract, non-narrative
terms, it is difficult to see what his problem is. Then I ask him:
‘Tell me a story.’ When the person is given the task to
tell a story which exemplifies his major point, we get something to
work on.”
Oscar does not disagree with this approach. Demanding a story can
sometimes be a useful move, he admits, for the same reasons that Petra
gives – provided that the story is quite short and sticks to the
problem the client wants to put forward. As soon as it has become
clear what the client wants to talk about, we can start the
philosophical work by making the guest explain his own story, or by
condensing it to a question.
This minor modification does not change the fact that philosophy is at
odds with life. Life is full of desires that we seek to satisfy, and
then to rest, while philosophizing is to impose a censorship on our
desires, be it to express our feelings and opinions and to tell
stories about ourselves. By bringing these desires to a halt, we in a
way to learn to die. Death is present in life, which is not just about
accepting death in the end. It is also about stopping to want
something – if not necessarily for the rest of our lifetime, so
at least for the rest of the consultation session.
Philosophy is also to stop repeating principles and maxims in a rigid
way – like “The future belongs to those who rise
early.” Then we must say “Wait a minute, let’s
examine it,” which is what Socrates did. This kind of
examination is not very natural, and it can be very costly in a
“psychological” way, as it prompts resistance, and maybe
embarrassment, in the other when something one firmly believes to be
true proves to be a problem – and on top of that is exposed as a
mere opinion.
The philosophical schizophrenia
Here we encounter a major difference between a philosophical and a
psychological approach to the subject’s problem. The
psychologist tends to say: “Stop speaking universally, start
talking about yourself,” thus inviting a talk on intimate
issues. The philosopher says the opposite: “Stop talking about
yourself, start speaking universally.” While feelings do have a
subject, namely the person who feels, reasoning is impersonal –
or rather interpersonal – and has thus no subject. At the same
time, it is human to be rational, cf. Aristotle’s’
definition of man as a rational animal.
In order to philosophize you have to step outside of yourself. This
leads, as Oscar states it, to what we can call the philosophical
schizophrenia. It is painful to step outside oneself, not to be one.
Then you leave the familiar kind of speech that is the house of the
(empirical) self. Then you speak about your speech, which means that
you reason about your own reasoning, as you cannot separate speech
from reasoning. When you have left your empirical self in this way,
you are not yourself anymore, but other. Then there is the fracture of
being. Philosophy is thus also about the death of the self.
Killing the alternative
During a consultation or a group discussion, Oscar often stops a
person by saying “You think too much.” This is because
people tend to make the answer much more complicated than what is
called for in Oscar’s question. The tendency to think too much
when confronted with a quite simple question of reasoning is another
instance of the very human urge to express oneself. Or, quite often:
to escape one’s own words by drowning the fish. When a person
thinks too much, he surely creates confusion, which very well might be
a strategy to get out of the fix his own words have put him into.
To reason is also about killing the alternative. In his questioning
Oscar forces the subject to answer yes or no, or to make a choice
between two alternatives, thus killing the alternative that is not
chosen. Killing the alternative is another way to learn about finitude
and death, he states. Then we realize that all options are not really
open to us, as we tend to imagine in daily life.
To add a point of my own: A widespread self-deceptive way of thinking
is to add up all the options we have to for instance take a job.
“But if I don’t take the job,” we may say, “I
can devote myself to philosophy, and travel to Latin America, and
spend time renovating my flat, and enjoy my freedom to look for a more
interesting job,” and so on, thus making the prospect of not
taking the job much more attractive than it actually is. That is
because we then have to choose between the other options. We cannot
both devote ourselves to philosophy and
travel to Latin America and renovate our
flat and look for more interesting jobs at
the same time.
Looked upon in isolation, each of these options may not be that much
more appealing than taking the job, as when they are lumped together.
But we nevertheless tend to put them together, and avoid as long as
possible to kill any of them by making a choice. “Think of
everything we shall do when I can quit my job and get my
pension,” the workaholic husband typically says to his wife.
Very often he ends up utterly frustrated in his leisure years, doing
nothing.
To challenge the sense of omnipotence
Oscar thinks that there is a sense of omnipotence in our tendency to
avoid making choices, or distinctions – which also is to leave
something out instead of putting everything together. Reasoning, he
points out, is much about making distinctions. Without distinctions
everything tend to merge into some kind of quasi-identity that is not
clear at all. Then, as Hegel says, we get into the night where all
cows are black.
One of Oscar’s favorite quotations from Plato also deals with
this. When we are children, Plato says, we want everything at the same
time. But when we grow up, we realize that we must choose.
A person’s unwillingness to realize the tension between
different concepts thus reveals an omnipotent urge to unite
everything. Then we, as Oscar quotes Hegel, invite ourselves too
quickly at the table of the divine, where everything is united. If you
want to unite two different concepts – which according to Hegel
is possible indeed – you must do that through a third concept,
and not just state that e.g. security and freedom basically go
together, because a certain amount of security is required in order to
have freedom. Is there a new concept in your synthetic moment, or not?
If not, please leave the table and try again.
Basically, to acknowledge a problem is to accept the finiteness of
things. When you cannot unite two concepts, like security and freedom,
right away, you are faced with a problem. Either you must choose one
of them as the most important one, or you must find a third concept
that bridges the gap you have discovered by realizing the unresolved
tension between security and freedom. This is how problems are the
link to finiteness, to one’s own finitude, which eventually is
death.
To reconcile the subject with the
problem
A revealing question that Oscar asks from time to time, is: “Do
you like problems, or not?” Then the other often makes an
awkward smile, hesitates and utters a “maybe,” or “I
don’t know.” Whereupon Oscar asks the eventual bystanders:
“Who thinks that she likes problems?” Not surprisingly,
nobody thinks she does – while most of them raise their hands
when Oscar asks: “Who thinks that she does not like
problems?”
As he tells us, Oscar repeatedly experiences that most people
don’t like problems. He believes that their reluctance to face a
problem is that problems mean pain. This is why people quickly want to
fill the gap, or even the abyss, that a problem reveals, in order to
preserve their sense of omnipotence from the sobering fact of
finitude. Then they are likely to pretend that the gap isn’t
there at all.
The philosopher’s job thus is to reconcile the person with the
problem. If not, the person will do everything to deny the problem.
That is why it is so important to make the subject see the problem,
head on, and why the counselor should not try to solve it, at least
not before it is fully acknowledged. Because, if the subject is not
made to really see her problem, how can she be reconciled with it?
As Oscar demonstrated through a taped consultation session he played
to us and commented upon, it can be really hard to make people see a
problem within their own thinking – which usually is something
else than their initial question, which may be a bogus question.
Bad faith is then a notion we should be aware of: that the subject, in
spite of her reasoning capacities, repeatedly denies the existence of
a problem in her thinking, even if this problem is evident for those
who might listen to the dialogue. She denies it because she will not
acknowledge the problem, as this might prompt a reconsideration of
several deeply entrenched beliefs of her. That would be too painful,
and quite frightening, too.
Oscar is, however, content if he realizes that the subject has had
“a philosophical moment,” as he calls it, when she is made
to see the problem. She may not admit that she has seen it, but when
it to him (and maybe others) is evident that she has done so, the
mission is accomplished – at least for the session in question.
That may be as far as the subject can get at the present time. What
then happens is up to the subject. She might try to forget about it
and pretend that the moment never happened, or think about it and open
up to a revised understanding of herself – which might make her
ready for a new consultation after some time.
To relieve the subject of her
will-power
As Oscar points out, it takes a lot of will power to maintain
one’s bad faith during a consultation, or to repeatedly avoid
answering the question. A die-hard subject will not play with the
rules Oscar imposes, but insist on answering in her own way, and will
do everything she can to get the upper hand and take the counselor for
a ride.
Thus, too much will power is not good when subjected to a
consultation. Then the counselor must make the subject overcome her
will power, make her let go of it. This might be considered as an
attack on the person’s autonomy in a society where will power is
hailed as a favorable personal trait, and even as a precondition for
autonomy. How can it be good for the subject to give in, and without
resistance go along with answering the questions?
Again, this giving in is about the death of the self, and an
acknowledgement of finitude. But since the dialogue takes place on the
transcendental level of reason, where there is no (empirical) self,
the letting go of one’s will power makes sense. As long as the
dialogue does not deal with intimate issues – as long as it has
a personal but not private character – the momentary letting go
of one’s will-power could in fact enable the subject to see
herself in a new way than the usual one, and thus to expand her
understanding of herself.
Resisting the demand to contextualize
Two very common maneuvers to resist the rules of Oscar’s
exercise is to answer “Yes, but ...” or “It depends
...” to a question that demands a clear choice or distinctions
between two alternatives. Oscar then is very firm of his “No
yes, but...” as the subject’s urge to elaborate on, and
thus contextualize her answer – which becomes evident with her
“but” – must be silenced. It is then important to
make the subject face the pain of having to make a choice that kills
the alternative, and thus limits her further possibilities. The same
goes with “It depends ...” which also is a demand to
contextualize.
But, as Oscar warns us: “If you accept a contextualized answer
to a general question, you are finished.” The urge to elaborate
further on the issue is in most instances an urge to explain away the
problem that emerges through the questioning. So if you allow the
subject to explain away an upcoming problem, you allow her to take you
for a ride. The objection “It depends ...” should
therefore be met with a “Yes, it depends, but if you have to
make a choice between A and B, what would it be?”
What is, then, the urge to explain further and to contextualize before
answering a general question? It is, again, the effort to avoid the
pain of being confronted with a problem of your own thinking. As we
have seen, most people don’t like problems for this reason. That
is why Oscar’s insistence on clear, short general answers to
equally clear and short general questions so often is met with the
“yes, but” and the “it depends” objection.
Which ventilates the frustration of not being allowed to drown the
fish in a massive contextualized complexity. “You make it too
simple!” is a common accusation, or “You banalize the
problem, as real life is much more complex than this!”
Sure it is, when it comes to our empirical lives. But now our
empirical life is not the issue; it is our way of reasoning the
dialogue deals with.
The necessity to label
Another feature of Oscar’s very stripped down way of questioning
is that it allows for labeling the issue in a seemingly crude way. If
the subject has produced the antinomy Selfish – Generous, Oscar
might ask “What would a selfish person say to so and so?”
and “What would a generous person say to so and so?” It
may seem quite rude, and out of touch with life’s many nuances,
to label a person with only one adjective, as in these two questions.
The subject may also feel herself being labeled, directly or
indirectly, and consider this an insult. It is okay to put labels on
jars that contain sugar, flour, etc. But to label people in a similar
way? That’s outrageous!
Oscar nevertheless defends the necessity to label whatever it may be,
as an act of thinking. This is a way of making distinctions, to ensure
that sugar and flour is not mixed together in thought. If there is a
tendency to oversimplify matters in question by way of labeling, it on
the other hand helps us to clarify our thoughts by forcing us to make
mutually exclusive distinctions, which is essential in thinking.
This does not imply that we once and for all must settle for fixed,
rigid alternatives, labeled once and for all. Hegel has clearly shown
that this needs not be the case, because opposites may be reconciled
by way of a third, unifying concept. But in order to get to this
unifying moment, you have to label, to categorize, in the first place;
if not, you get nowhere, but are stuck in the night where all cows are
black. Making the complexity of empirical life an excuse to stay in
this night is thus far off the mark.
The insulting bit of the task of labeling is that this, too,
challenges people’s sense of omnipotence. “I’m so
complex and special that I cannot be labeled in such a crude
way,” people tend to think, at least in the modern western
culture. But is this really so when we look further into it? Oscar
thinks no, and has stated that people are quite banal. If so, this is
a harsh truth that most people would tend to escape, mainly by
drowning this disagreeable fish in the numerous “yes,
but…” of empirical life.
This, I believe, is a question of vanity, as most people would like to
be acknowledged as complex and special rather than simple and banal.
To be complex and special is supposed to make us more interesting,
both to ourselves and to other people, than if we were quite simple
and banal. As is the case with the fear of looking stupid, the
philosopher must overcome his wish to be complex and supposedly
interesting, and be at ease with being simple, whether this is
considered interesting or not.
5. Some vital technicalities
During the seminary Oscar dealt with some vital technicalities
that borders on the realm of informal logic. I have already touched
upon some of them, particularly when I mentioned the “Yes, but
... " and “It depends ...” objections.
In addition to these, the subject often takes refuge in the
“Maybe” objection. To say “Maybe” is to imply
that something is possible, without being specific on how likely or
unlikely this is. If the counselor allows the subject to get away with
such a “maybe,” Oscar states, he allows her to escape the
choice between the two alternatives in question, and thus to take him
for a ride.
What maybe may be, according to
Leibniz
The different ways in which the subject may use the
“maybe” word is worth considerations. One way is to say
“maybe” when it is obvious that the possibility implied is
a very likely one. Then the maybe is only an attempt to escape a
concession, and should be revealed as such.
Alternatively, the subject says “maybe” when the
possibility implied is a very remote one. Then, Oscar advises, the
counselor must go for what is probable: “Yes, maybe you will be
struck by lightening, and maybe the Martians are coming, but what
would you consider the most probable to be of A and B?” This
will bring the subject back to the choice she is so reluctant to make.
There are, however, instances where the counselor should himself
appeal to what is possible. These are when the subject flatly denies
something to be the case, without having a good reason for doing so.
Then Oscar suspects that what she denies, indeed is the case.
As Oscar points out, to say “No it’s not possible”
is a very harsh statement. As a rule of thumb, he takes such a radical
negation as a lie. It is, as he sees it, a defense response. Then it
can be useful to introduce hypothetical situations by asking
“Suppose you are ... could you then ... ?”, or: “Is
it possible that so and so nevertheless could be the case?” In instances where
such a possibility is not very farfetched, but something that is quite
probable, such a move may be revealing.
Oscar leans on G.W. Leibniz in this respect, as this German
rationalist philosopher developed a distinction between four logical
categories that has proved to be very useful in consultations.
According to Leibniz, there are degrees of being which can be
categorized in this way:
- What is impossible, which is something
that cannot be or happen
- What is possible, which is something
that can be or happen, but which is next to the impossible
- What is probable, which is something
that is or happens in general, but which does not exclude exceptions
- What is necessary, which is something
that must be or happen
To be well aware of these four categories, and to counter confusion by
making use of them, is vital to the counselor.
The difference between
conceptualizing and problematizing
Another well-known source of confusion during a consultation, is the
subject’s – and in lots of cases also the
counselor’s – inability to distinguish between
conceptualizing and problematizing. But, as Oscar emphasizes, these
are two different tasks that cannot be accomplished at the same time.
The counselor must thus be very clear about what is going on at any
time during a consultation: Do we now conceptualize, or do we
problematize? Often, the subject is tempted to start problematizing
before she has accomplished the task of conceptualizing, which must
come first, and if the counselor allows her to do this, he is
finished.
According to Kant, Oscar reminds us, what is problematic is a kind of
statements that must not be mixed together with what is necessary, or
what is merely an opinion. In order to know what we at any time deal
with, Kant divides statements into three kinds:
- Assertoric statements, which give
opinions, as in daily life where persons state what is or is not the
case according to themselves, often without giving reasons
- Apodictic statements, which are of a
scientific kind, where necessity plays a role
- Problematic statements, which are about
what is merely possible
In daily life people tend to give assertoric statements a flavor of
necessity that is unjustified, in order to avoid any problematization
of it. “The future belongs to those who rise early” is
such an assertoric statement that a counselor should work on by
counter-examples that disprove its claim of necessity, and throws it
in the realm of problematic statements. Another instance is, as
mentioned above, when the subject flatly denies something else to be
possible than her own statement, even when it is of an assertoric
kind.
As Oscar puts it: when people agree upon something, they stop
thinking. Knowledge is one of the most terrible things that stop
thinking, and that’s why Socrates insisted on his ignorance. It
is confusion of the mind that makes us think. People may be reluctant
to be brought into such a confusion, because they fear that they then
will know less than before. But, as the philosopher must point out:
Who knows more – the person who affirms, or the person who
questions things?
The difference between objection and
disagreement
Quite related to the difference between conceptualizing and
problematizing is the difference between an objection and another
idea. Confusion in this respect is especially frequent in group
discussions, but occurs also in one-to-one consultations. This
confusion makes people object to an idea because it is different from
their own idea, even if this idea does makes sense.
In a loose sense of the verb, “to object” may also mean to
disagree, but when employed in a philosophical discussion, the notions
objection and disagreement must be kept apart. In order to object to
an idea you must prove that there is something wrong/false with this
idea, so that it does not make sense. If it, however, does make sense,
you might disagree with it by offering a different idea. But then you
don’t have an objection.
During a consultation, the counselor is supposed to encourage a debate
within the subject, in order to make her be at a distance from
herself, and then to think. At such instances it might happen that the
subject mixes objections and disagreements. Then the counselor must
ask questions that makes her see the difference, and to let go of the
confusion.
The difference between questions and
hidden statements
Since the counselor’s task is to ask questions, and not to add
ideas of his own, he must be very conscious of posing real questions,
and not make a statement hidden in a false question. Not every
sentence that ends with a question mark is a real question, as the
ancient masters of rhetoric knew. If a question is posed in such a way
that the other is heavily inclined towards a specific answer, the
question is rhetorical and should be avoided.
Hidden statements are opinions of one’s own lightly disguised as
a question. A typical way of phrasing a hidden statement is to start
the question with “Isn’t it so that ... ?”. Then the
so that usually is an opinion of one’s own, and not an
open-minded inquiry.
The same goes for a question like “Are you in fact a guru,
Oscar, and not a philosophical counselor?”. We don’t have
to wonder much what a person posing such a question means about that.
During the seminary, we had an exercise in posing questions to
specific answers, and it became evident that it is very easy to lapse
into hidden statements. This kind of false questions should of course
be abandoned during a consultation.
I would like to add an observation of my own, namely that Oscar
phrases a typical question of his by saying “Is it so and so, or
not?”. To me, to add “or not?” at the end heightens
the question’s quality as a real question, because it allows the
subject to answer more freely yes or no than if the question had been
“Is it so and so?”. Then, I think, the subject would have
been inclined to answer yes rather than no, even if this way of posing
the question is not rhetorical. This little example shows how
meticulous Oscar is in posing real questions in his own practice,
which surely is an example to follow.
6. On world vision
As my remarks so far on Oscar’s work shows, he tends to
be much more concerned about form than content in a philosophical
dialogue. This is, I think, even more the case in a group discussion
than in a one-to-one consultation. Since the seminary mostly dealt
with group discussions, the emphasis on form was evident in many
sessions. Oscar even stated once that the theme of discussion merely
was an excuse to exercise on the form element, as every discussion
needs a content to get started. To people who really cares for the
theme, this may be quite frustrating.
There were, however, sessions where the content played the main role,
as when the theme for discussion was the world vision embedded in a
statement. Early on in the seminary, Oscar stated his conviction that
everyone carries a world vision, whether the person is aware of it or
not. Then such a world vision may be conscious as well as unconscious.
Despite its psychological connotations, Oscar does not refrain from
using the word unconscious in a philosophical context. But, as he
points out, the unconscious is not the same to a philosopher as to a
psychologist. To a philosopher, the concept “unconscious”
deals with thoughts of a cognitive nature that are presupposed, even
if they are not present in the person’s consciousness at a
certain moment. To a psychologist, the unconscious deals with traumas
from one’s personal experiences, which are suppressed from
consciousness to the point that the person is no longer consciously
aware of them.
I suppose that the unconscious in the philosophical sense has to do
with the fact that we cannot have all our thoughts and presuppositions
present in our consciousness at the same time. Only what is requested
for the situation we are in at the moment, which is a very limited
number of all our thoughts and presuppositions, can be consciously
present. When I sit in a room and am occupied with some work or some
thinking or some discussion, I presuppose that the floor will carry me
and the roof will not fall down in my head, and so on, even if I do
not give these considerations a thought.
What is important to note here, is that such “unconscious”
considerations keep influencing my thoughts and actions at every
moment, even if they are not in my consciousness. They continue to be
basic presuppositions of what I think and do, also when they are
outside the very narrow field of my consciousness at a specific moment
– and can we speak about consciousness in another way than of
consciousness at a specific moment?
We must admit, however, that some propositions of our own are more
reluctantly brought into consciousness than other propositions that we
for some reason find less embarrassing or controversial. The
subject’s refusal or resistance to admit certain thoughts, which
repeatedly is exposed in Oscar’s consultations, clearly
demonstrates this.
We may thus have reason to suppose that a person can keep some
propositions of a cognitive, un-private nature outside his or her
consciousness in a more systematic way than when the question is
whether the roof will not fall down or not, as the latter question is
quite uncontroversial unless one is actually worried if the building
is not solid, which rarely is the case (at least in my life). The
person’s resistance to admit certain propositions is then quite
similar to a person’s resistance to bring some trauma of the
past back into consciousness. This means that the border between the
philosophically unconsciousness and the psychologically
unconsciousness is blurred and cannot be drawn sharply.
This may shed some light on the seemingly paradoxical fact that a
discussion of concepts or logical matters may trigger a considerable
emotional resistance or upheaval in the subject. The paradoxical bit
is that one could believe that conceptual or logical matters are of
such an impersonal kind that they would not be able to trigger any
emotions by themselves. We have learned to believe that only intimate
matters can be capable of doing this, but the purely conceptual and
logical questioning by Socrates and others proves that this is not the
case.
Maybe the source of the resistance to bring thoughts as well as
traumas into consciousness is that both thoughts and traumas may
counter the person’s preferred image of himself, which are often
based on quite unrealistic or false presuppositions, if not to say
wishful thinking. I believe that one’s relationship with other
people – the inevitable fact that we constantly are seen with
the glance of others, to speak with Sartre, and to a large extent
internalize the other’s glance – very much constitutes our
outlook on the world and on ourself, which are the two sides of the
same coin and cannot be completely separated.
To return to the seminar, Oscar prompted us to bring our world vision
into consciousness by telling us to write our intellectual testament
in a limited number of words, and, in another session, by explaining
the morale of a fairy tale story (the Cinderella story), as each one
of us saw it. By comparing each participant’s work, and by
conceptualizing the main differences, it became evident that our own
way of thinking is not the only possible way, but that there are world
visions quite different from our own, but very possible and reasonable
all the same.
To be aware of different kinds of world visions, and to encounter a
world vision different from our own in a consultation or in a group
discussion, is what a counselor must train himself to do. Again, the
counselor must not try to impose his own ideas on the subject, and
certainly not his own world vision. Instead, he must make the subject
more conscious of her own world vision, which is embedded in her own
statements. Often, when he makes the subject counter her own argument
by encouraging her to “think the unthinkable”, an inquiry
between two world visions may be detected within the same subject.
To make the subject realize this – as I did in Copenhagen two
years ago, when Oscar questioned me in a consultation open to the
public, and exposed a tension between a Kantian and an Epicurean
approach in my thinking – should be the aim of the consultation.
Then the subject is given the opportunity to know herself better.
I will thus conclude these rather lengthy remarks by quoting Oscar
from an earlier occasion, when he said: “Our job is to convert
the subject to her own religion.” I still think that this is a
very precise, and condensed, formulation of what the Oscarian approach
is all about.
Vérifié - August 11, 2006
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